Early on I got some advice from a lady who always seems to be full of joy and on the verge of learning something new. “Delight in your children” and later she added, “and they will be delightful”. I love this advice. There are so many things embedded in it. It says, parenting can be fun, relaxing- delightful! Children are worthy of awe- of our delight. Children are full of surprises! It says, life is good and you are free to enjoy it. It also has resounding principle in the goodness of people. It says, there is always something wonderful in children – in people. Find that. Think about that. Enjoy that. Dwell on that. Certainly, however, our kids will not always delight us. Far from it. Certainly that needs to be addressed frequently and acknowledged but as a general disposition and practice- delight is the way to go,just as our heavenly father delights in His children.
There is also a positive influence on the child when a parent finds delight, Don’t you feel better, kinder, more confident, happier, bigger people when you think that others are enjoying your presence? Same is true for our kids, of course. And conversely, we are better parents when we are delighting in our children. This is true in the classroom as well. The whole atmosphere of the classroom is elevated when the teacher truly is delighted by her students.
It reminds me of St. Paul’s advice to the Philippians “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”
What is delightful about your children?